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Some Observations after 35 years as a Divorce Lawyer<\/strong><\/h4>\n
1.) Difficult personalities don't become less difficult when they divorce.<\/h5>\n
2.) The more vigorously the opposing spouse personally attacks you, the better you are doing.<\/h5>\n
3.) Most conduct that you interpret as mischief or malevolence is better explained as stupidity.<\/h5>\n
4.) \"Arguing with a fool only proves there are two.\"<\/h5>\n
5.) Often you succeed just by holding on.<\/h5>\n
6.) A lack of trust is corrosive. Spend adequate time with the client building it.<\/h5>\n
7.) Venting can be tremendously therapeutic. Find opportunities for parties to do so in a controlled manner.<\/h5>\n
8.) When you take your cases to bed with you, it's time to get away for a few days.<\/h5>\n
9.) Negotiating with toxic personalities is futile. Aggressively work up your case and get it to the judge as soon as possible.<\/h5>\n
10.)\u00a0Soft continuous pressure is more effective than a jackhammer.<\/h5>\n
11.) What can we control? Our attitude, level of preparation, and the quality of our arguments. What can't we control? Everything else.<\/h5>\n
12.) Divorce cases devolve to the most difficult personality in the case (parties and lawyers).<\/h5>\n
13.) Emotion is the fuel of a divorce case, not logic.<\/h5>\n
14.) When you are spending more time fighting with your own client than with the other side, it's time to get out of the case.<\/h5>\n
15.) The loudest lawyer in the courtroom is the most frightened.<\/h5>\n
16.) People are more inclined to pay for hope rather than out of gratitude.<\/h5>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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